There are days when I feel like an imposter. I get up in the mornings and go through all the motions. I do the reading for my course work, work with my daughter on her home school work, look for an internship, make sure the family has what it needs. Even still I feel very much like I have not accomplished anything. I have a check list that tells me that I have accomplished things. And yet I feel like an imposter.
I muscle past the fear and anxiety that talking to people brings up in me. For example, I have to call someone about the insurance and I have to straighten out the order for my new glasses. I am filled with terror at the thought of both. I will do them eventually. But the thought of doing them fills me with fear. The rational side of my brain tells me that this is no big deal. Neither of these two people I will talk to are a threat to me. My life does not hang in the balance, and yet it feels like it does.
Regardless of all that I have accomplished I cannot get past my feelings of failure. For many years of my childhood I felt as though I could not succeed. I was never good enough. Never expected to be good enough. So when I do succeed or do well it is always a surprise.
I would not say that I don’t try, because I do try. Sometimes a little too hard. And it is those times or the times that people express belief in me that I feel like an imposter. It is always a welcome though surprising piece of information when I find out others feel that way as well. For some reason that always surprises me. What also surprises me is when someone believes I can do something that I feel I have no idea how to do.
Which brings us to the feelings of being an imposter. I have come to a point where by using mindfulness and meditation I am able to go to appointments and feel like the real live confident person that I am and not the scared and inadequate person that I feel I am. I am hoping that the imposter feeling will find somewhere else to be for today. But even still as long as I just keep doing what I need to do regardless of the imposter feeling I will accomplish things. Even if I can’t be who I think I should be then perhaps this me that steps up to do all the things that need doing will become the me I look at instead of the me I think I should be. And then the imposter will be the right person.
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Hi, I feel I have to comment on this. I have read a few of your posts and to me you come across as a really lovely person who has just had a tough time of it. Just be true to yourself and that way you will be fine.I used to feel like you do now but hard work and determination has helped me conquer most of my fears.My tip is make those phone calls today or asap, the more you put it off the anxiety and self doubt will build in you.If you face your fears head on you will be the winner,take care love Alex
Thanks for the kindness. I did make the phone calls. Everything went fine and everyone was kind. It is silly really how sometimes all the things come at you at once and what seemed perfectly normal becomes really hard.
Well done. You are welcome. I understand.
Psychology Today just posted and article on feeling like an imposter and the anxiety that follows, most of us have been there at one time or another. I hope it is okay, here is the link http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200911/field-guide-the-self-doubter-extra-credit
Thanks for the information. That is great.
You are welcome.